Yep. One of the many stressors of relationships everywhere, be it marriage, family, neighborhood, workplace, church or rock band, sometimes our ability to navigate both others’ and our own emotions will make or break… well… anything and sometimes everything.
If you read or hear me over the years you’ll know it’s about as rare as “hen’s teeth” to cite business information/how-to stuff as though it were some sort of perfect overlay for a Christian’s approach to life, church or ministry. This is one extremely rare exception, and I’ll explain why in a bit though I think it’s fairly obvious re. the truths unfolded within the article.
In Bible plain-speak, the fruit which the Holy Spirit grows in the life of a follower of Jesus is, should be, can be, will be if we’ll cooperate with Him and seek Him in such, things like self-control, patience, kindness and gentleness. Sounds like what we might need to engage regularly with anyone doesn’t it? How much more are these attitudes/attributes/virtues of God Himself essentials in living, working alongside “difficult” people? And in humility, sometimes -we- are difficult people folks, humility and integrity calls us to admit that also.
Being the extrovert I am, listening is an on-going work of art I’m engaged in. The article’s accent on listening is core- and I would say one of the most amazing gifts God gives us. Consider His un-changing effort and lovingkindness via His listening to us, 24 x 7 x 365?!
In many Christian circles these days there is regular teaching on “spiritual listening”. I concur and have personally benefitted from various input as well as exercises in actually listening at a deeper level than I had in years past. Practice!
Love, peace, patience, kindness, (see Galatians chapter 5 for the full list) are all needed in solid relationships and flourishing engagement whether in family, work, socially or mission. To simply defend yourself by blowing all this off as mere emotionalism or pandering to folk’s feelings may well mean your feelings about it are ruling you. Hmmm? Ouch?
Perhaps worth considering along the path.
As always, thanks for stopping by. -Glenn