Emotional Intelligence?

Yep. One of the many stressors of relationships everywhere, be it marriage, family, neighborhood, workplace, church or rock band, sometimes our ability to navigate both others’ and our own emotions will make or break… well… anything and sometimes everything.

If you read or hear me over the years you’ll know it’s about as rare as “hen’s teeth” to cite business information/how-to stuff as though it were some sort of perfect overlay for a Christian’s approach to life, church or ministry. This is one extremely rare exception, and I’ll explain why in a bit though I think it’s fairly obvious re. the truths unfolded within the article.


In Bible plain-speak, the fruit which the Holy Spirit grows in the life of a follower of Jesus is, should be, can be, will be if we’ll cooperate with Him and seek Him in such, things like self-control, patience, kindness and gentleness. Sounds like what we might need to engage regularly with anyone doesn’t it? How much more are these attitudes/attributes/virtues of God Himself essentials in living, working alongside “difficult” people? And in humility, sometimes -we- are difficult people folks, humility and integrity calls us to admit that also.

Being the extrovert I am, listening is an on-going work of art I’m engaged in. The article’s accent on listening is core- and I would say one of the most amazing gifts God gives us. Consider His un-changing effort and lovingkindness via His listening to us, 24 x 7 x 365?!

In many Christian circles these days there is regular teaching on “spiritual listening”. I concur and have personally benefitted from various input as well as exercises in actually listening at a deeper level than I had in years past. Practice!

Love, peace, patience, kindness, (see Galatians chapter 5 for the full list) are all needed in solid relationships and flourishing engagement whether in family, work, socially or mission. To simply defend yourself by blowing all this off as mere emotionalism or pandering to folk’s feelings may well mean your feelings about it are ruling you. Hmmm? Ouch?

Perhaps worth considering along the path.

As always, thanks for stopping by. -Glenn


2 thoughts on “Emotional Intelligence?

  1. Thanks, great post, and great article.
    I need to read it again.

    My wife and family have helped me – patiently have had to deal with all of my failings when I flopped on each one of the 7 points in the article – failed miserably my first 5 years of marriage, than especially the next 5-10 years of parenting.

    Failed – but life lessons, well taken. I don’t ever want to go back and repeat my same mistakes, emotional immaturity, don’t want to repeat the same kinds of mistakes.

    Yes – a perfect correlation to the fruits of the Spirit, so important to have emotional stability, especially in this day when so few things go the way we probably want them to go.

    I figure that Pastor GK can speak from a lifetime of experience. Just living around a bunch of other people in a multi story building, a bunch of Christians – wow, that has to be the toughest calling of all, seriously!

    I have enough drama with just my wife, and four younger kids, and a doggie.

    God bless you and all who are ministered to by your posts.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, do I EVER know failure in each of these areas and not just in the past. One day at a time. And yes, the iron-sharpening process of living in close, intentional community either cures or frustrates you until you seek God and wise other folks for help… or just shut down and perhaps move. That’s reality everywhere of course. Thanks, -Glenn

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